Dating Puts Me In a Low Vibration

And I wish it wasn’t so.

Emily Jennings

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Why must the search for a partner be so difficult and stressful? So many of my friends and I, who are dating in our thirties and forties, ask this. It’s like the collective has hit a wall with relationships. I don’t believe it was always like this. Humanity is just so disconnected. We don’t really know why we’re dating anymore. The only thing that seems clear is that it’s a constant string of disappointments and hurt.

We’ve lost sight of what it means to seek love because there are so many barriers we’ve all seemed to build against it. The world seems to teach us that it’s honorable to chase physical pleasure, status, money, travel, and anything except a meaningful connection with another human. Somehow, that’s something a lot of people avoid like the plague — making it hard for the minority of us that want it. And then it starts to get into our heads, too.

I don’t know about you, but I have reached my limit. I deleted all my dating apps and closed myself off to the activity of meeting total strangers in hopes that they might be “the one”. It turns out that there is such a thing as too many frogs to kiss in order to meet my prince charming — the number of hurtful and horrifying dates I must endure is too high a price for me to pay anymore for my peace of mind.

I am hurt and I am tired. There are only so many total strangers I can show up for with an open heart only have it raked across the coals.

Dating makes it apparent how hard it is to be on a healing journey. The reason it’s hard is because most people aren’t even remotely interested in healing. They don’t seem to know why they’re dating. Is it to “get” something? Or is it to have a meaningful experience with another soul?

The fact that most people aren’t dating for pure reasons smacks you in the face when you start dating. It’s a lonely experience to be self-aware and trying to be better. I am nowhere near perfect, but I am trying to show up for others in a respectful, loyal, and meaningful way. I’d like that reciprocated, but instead, I am treated as a villain or an insignificant piece of dust. Is basic respect too much to ask for anymore?

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Emily Jennings

Wellness & Oneness, Consciousness, Spiritual Enlightenment, Twin Flames, and a Little Bit of Silliness | IG: @wellness_oneness | www.wellnessoneness.com