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How Self-Love Can Supersede Immense Pain
The paradox of your internal and external relationships
Sometimes we need a relationship with another person to find self-love. We spend so much energy searching for someone to love and to love us in return, but many of us reach a point in our lives when we discover that the love we were seeking all along resides within the self. It’s not in another human or the relationship between ourselves and someone else. It’s just in us.
All relationships are a mirror. All relationships help us explore the self. We are all searching for love — the one thing that can make this whole existence have any meaning. The paradox is that we need to have a relationship with another person to find the love that was always within. That’s because other people’s love (or lack of it) mirrors the love situation within ourselves.
The Universe Seeks Love
We are parts of the universe, and the universe is trying to understand love. So, as a part of that whole, you are also trying to understand it. But we find it through interactions with other people — something the greater universe can’t do.
It sees us as itself — and it is trying to find self-love, too. So, when we love each other, we help the universe love itself.
