It’s Okay to Stop People-Pleasing
You don’t need to make every relationship work.
One of my latest karmic cycles that I am working to graduate from is the tendency to be a people pleaser. I have found that I have a sense of loyalty for others that isn’t always reciprocated. There are people who would call me their friend but would drop me in a heartbeat if it was convenient for them. I’m learning that often, the problem lies in myself.
I am not yet able to recognize in myself the fact that I don’t have to be friends with everyone. I don’t have to please everyone.
As a spiritual person, I try to embody love and compassion more and more to the best of my ability. Sometimes that is a challenge when it seems that there are a lot of self-serving people in the world. But then sometimes people enter my life who appear to be friendly and loving toward me — only to find out later that in fact, they are often (sometimes unintentionally) in need of something from me. They’re just seeking my attention and energy. When I don’t produce the object of their desires, their attentions wane. They show me the level of respect that they truly had for me all along.
I’ll be honest, I am writing this after a few months during which a short series of people I thought were friends just blocked me out of the blue. No reason was given. And…
