Self-Love and Self-Hate

Working Through Self-Loathing

Understand the ways you allow transgressions against the self.

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You always have a choice whether to lower your standards for yourself. You always have the opportunity to be rigid with your rules about life or to bend them. You always have the ability to uphold or revise your boundaries. Giving in to less-than-ideal situations can sometimes be an act of self-love and something an act of self-hate.

When you allow someone to overstep your boundaries and do something you don’t approve of, this is an act of self-hate.

Maybe it sounds weird. But lately, I’ve been realizing just how much I hate myself.

I allow things to happen that aren’t what I wanted. I allow people to ruin agreements I’ve made with myself. In my soul, I know certain things are right and wrong about the way life should be, and I turn and look the other way sometimes while others trample over these values. I let it happen. I’m too flexible and forgiving.

I used to think that flexibility and forgiveness were good qualities. And they still can be. But before, I was being hard on myself when I wasn’t compromising enough. I want things to work out so badly that I let my…